BOUNDARIES

Communicating boundaries without overexplaining.

By Michelle Hubbs · The Strategic Response

Make your position understandable.

In conversations shaped by narcissistic dynamics, a long explanation can open multiple new arguments. Consider whether a short statement of your availability, decision, or request would make the practical issue clearer.

Describe your own next step.

A communication boundary is strongest when it explains what you will do. “I will respond to scheduling questions by email” sets out your approach without trying to control another person’s reaction.

Use a clear, workable example.

Instead of debating whether a request is fair in every respect, you might say: “I am available to discuss this on Thursday at 2 p.m. Please confirm whether that works.” The response stays with an actionable choice.

Avoid turning clarification into a debate.

You can clarify a genuine misunderstanding without defending your position indefinitely. Before adding another paragraph, consider whether it provides new information or simply repeats what has already been said.

Match the response to the setting.

Boardroom discussions, negotiation correspondence, and family disputes have different demands. Choose wording that fits the audience, your role, and the purpose of the conversation. Seek individualized professional guidance when the circumstances call for it.

General communication education only. Not legal advice, a clinical assessment, or individualized professional guidance.